What To Do When You Don’t Know What To Do

I have actually Googled this before… “what to do when you don’t know what to do“. Maybe that’s how you got here. I feel ya!

Life had become so unstimulating that I resorted to a desperate moment of letting Google tell me what my next move should be.

I had become bored and frustrated with the fact that I did not have that special “thing” that I enjoyed doing on the side. Everyone else around seemed to have a hobby or something that made them happy, and I felt like I was just going through life waiting for something significant to happen. I had let Facebook had become my hobby. What kind of life was I really leading when all I did was work and check Facebook. I cringed when someone would ask me what I liked to do in my spare time. I needed more!

I don’t know the exact moment but I knew I needed to dig a little deeper and find out what really made me tick.

Strip It Down

I started thinking about what it is that I used to love doing as a kid. Before I knew anything of great importance other than to explore my creativity and imagination.

I used to love to write in my diaries where I would document my thoughts and exciting moments. I loved looking through my Grandmother’s old journals after she had passed away because I was fascinated by her thoughts and what she felt was important enough to write down. This idea of writing and documenting always had my attention, I just never knew how much I truly loved it till I allowed myself to indulge in it again at this age.

What did you used to love doing? Painting? Riding horses? Hiking? It can be anything really. Pay attention to that small detail of your history and see if it is of any relevance to yourself right now.

Pay Attention To The Signs

I went throughout my next couple of weeks paying attention to the conversations that I had with people – do I feel completely interested in the topic of discussion? Do I have an interesting opinion or something to say about it? What is making me enjoy this conversation? I just kept taking mental notes and I still do to this day. It’s interesting to me to see how we can still learn about our self every day by being more self aware.

I came to realize that finding what your passionate about isn’t something that will happen right away, if you don’t already have it figured out. It will take some time and some self awareness to really understand what makes you feel alive.

What do you love to talk about? What do you find you pay attention to the most? What blog posts do you search for? What YouTube videos do you watch? What books do you read? What movies are you attracted to? Where does your mind wander to during the day? All of these answers are another way of sifting out the smaller details that may eventually lead to the main goal of finding your true passion.


I stopped making myself feel bad for trying things out and then quitting. I realized that it is perfectly okay for me to explore something that initially caught my interest, only to find out it wasn’t for me.

I believe that we should never stop exploring and experiencing new things. I tried crocheting, being a Scentsy rep, sewing, being a hard core runner; the list goes on.

It comes down to the point of understanding that trying things lead to life lessons, life lessons lead to learning about your self, learning about yourself leads to finding out what you are truly meant to do. 


Still have no idea? Give it time and be kind to yourself. It is encouraged be passionate about more than just one thing in your lifetime. Try ALL that you can and be open to new things.

We all have that something inside us that is begging to be listened to. Take the time to disconnect and pay attention to your instincts. You may already know what it is, you’re just waiting for the right moment. This is it.



Hil xo



8 thoughts on “What To Do When You Don’t Know What To Do

  1. I agree 100%, BUT I needed to hear this. I am horrible at doing it, even though I want to and know I need to. I am scared that other people will think I’m crazy, but I know need to just do it. I’m going to do just that tomorrow. *fingers crossed that I will actually* <-that's why I'm telling you. (Plus I'm still amazed by the amount we have in common… Pretty much everything you said you loved to do as a kid are the same as me. Of course there's differences, but still.) Thanks again for posting this. It's made me extra determined. ❤️

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  2. You’re not crazy, girl! And people will support you when they see you doing something you love. If not, they will have to learn to and/or come back right here and know that you have someone who supports you 100%! And I’m so happy you’ve set a date!! xo


  3. Love this. This reminds me of the book The Art of Work by Jeff Goins. He suggests that the way to find our passion/calling is to look back at our life and to listen to what it tells us. So what we loved doing as kids, and when we felt most proud of what we’d done, and what we naturally do in our spare time, etc. So fun digging and exploring!


    1. Thank you! I feel like I need to read this book, it sounds right up my alley 😊 And it is so fun to dig and explore! What’s more exciting than discovering your likes in life.


  4. Great advice! I will give this a go and write down everything. Growing up our parents teach us not to quit a hobby when we aren’t enjoying it but sometimes you need to so you can try something new. My next venture is to try rock climbing, I hope this turns out to be a favourite.

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    1. Thank you! I think that’s a great idea.. Writing things out seems to put things into a greater perspective. Rock climbing would be amazing and I hope it’s what you are looking for! Blog about it? If you do let me know! 😊

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